Communication breakdown
It’s always the same
I’m having a nervous breakdown
Drive me insane!
Led Zeppelin had it right. Its so difficult when you can’t get through to someone.
Do you ever notice that you can text some people and they bounce it right back? Its like they were sitting right next to you. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not someone who has my phone by my side for every beckoned moment. But when I get a text, if it doesn’t require me to look something up or check in with other people, then I respond rather quickly. When I’m driving, I try my best to wait until I get off the road. But I’m fairly responsive. At least I’ll given them a "I’ll get back with you".
Email is usually a whole lot worse. Especially for the texting generation, email is something of a snail’s method for talking. For some people, I may be lucky to ever get a response by email.
Facebook messenger? Its such a clunky program. I try my best to respond, but I don’t always know if its to my personal account or my business account. I may wait to respond until I get to a desktop. Or, unfortunately, it gets lost since once its read, I may forget to go back to it. But I try.
Twitter? I don’t really use it. I’ve responded when I need to. But I don’t usually ever open it up. My WordPress blog messaging is the worst. I try to respond but, again, its a really clunky program, especially on a desktop or laptop.
What surprises me the most is that the people who are in the texting generation are often the most difficult to get a response. I think those of us who grew up finger dialing a rotary landline, we are the best at getting back to people. We didn’t even have answering machines way back when, so we HAD to pick up the phone. But these younger folk are not often quick to respond.
To me, everything comes down to priorities. People will make it to work or a college class on time. But they will be late to meet with you by 10-15 minutes no matter what. You are just not that important to them. If I text someone, I may get a response a day later. But if I said I had something free and a big time celebrity was going to be there, they’d respond in a second. Its about priorities.
Where are your priorities? Do your closest friends matter to you more than your family? Are you punctual to everything because that’s who you are? Or maybe for some people, its OK to be fashionably late. For me, I’d rather be punctual all the time. I’d rather be consistent in my responses with people. Its because I respect others enough that I feel I owe them that as a friend.
Be true to yourself first. Set your values in life and stick by them. But don’t make your values optional. Have the strength of character to be strong in mind. Don’t let yourself down by not abiding by your own code for life.